Meeting Women - More Detail on Preproduction

As previously discussed, YOU CAN MEET WOMEN ANYWHERE. Therefore, good grooming is a must. In the previous column I discussed preproduction in generalities. One reader recommended that I be more specific. While that had not been my original intention, I can see the benefit. I do promise to get you out of the house & on to the meet soon.

I recommended that you “Smell good but not “drink” the cologne bottle. Think subtlety! Make us want to get closer to discover your scent (not run the other way because we’re choking)."

A word or two on the type of cologne or after-shave you choose. Go to the department store or upscale pharmacy where you can actually try scents on for the first time. Usually there are an abundance of women in the department store make-up area, so don’t be afraid to get an opinion. (Therefore, look good when you go shopping, you may skip ahead in my lesson plan.) (1) Cologne smells differently on everyone. What may smell good on your brother may stink on you. (2) Find a fragrance that enhances your natural pheromones. (3) Find a scent that is manly, deep or/and warm. (Remember think of appealing to a woman not sharing colognes with her.) Therefore stay away from florals even if the sales associate insists it’s something called a note. Personally, I don’t like my man to smell like a citrus fruit either. & forget the Unisex kind. I don’t think they smell nice on anyone. (4) Spend a few dollars. Remember you are going to use it sparingly so it will last awhile. Cheaper colognes’ smell can change (over time) in the bottle & may even evaporate since their base is alcohol. To get you started, some of my favorite fragrances are: So Sexy, Marc Jacobs for Men, Armani for Men & Creed. (& unfortunately I’m not getting a kick-back for these recommendations.)

I stated, “I’m all for personal style provided that it is height, weight & age appropriate." I should also state that the clothing you wear should be situation, circumstance &/or location appropriate.

No one expects a man to walk around in a tuxedo unless you’re going to a formal affair. Think of how silly you’d look on the beach in a 3-pc suit. You also look just as dumb in baggy shorts & a tank top at a dinner party (unless it’s an outdoor barbeque in the summer). Getting the picture? Clothes should fit where you are or are planning to be.

So say you’re a blue collar worker… dirty work, construction, mechanics, painting etc. I’ve seen many pretty hot construction workers in their tight t-shirts, jeans, tans & well developed arms. If you’re fit, I won't even mind the sweat stains. What’s the message here? See lesson #1, your clothes fit well & they were clean when you left for the day. (Please resist the urge to wear jeans that are so tight you’re advertising the size of your package.) If you are the kind of worker that wears coveralls, you can strip down (we may like the show) at lunchtime or the end of the day so we can see the clean man underneath. That way if you meet us on the way home, you’re good to go.

Another tip when out in public: if you want to make a connection, pay attention to your surroundings. If you always have a cell phone to your ear, or an IPOD plugged in, you will miss many opportunities.