Reading the Signals

DID YOUR OPENING LINE WOW US OR NOT? The answer to this is all about reading the signals, the verbal or non-verbal cues.

Body Language is a big indication of whether to proceed with the interaction or not. Body language can be more reliable than what a woman actually says. (By a certain age we’ve all had practice in social interaction. This is particularly true with girls. Little girls are taught to be polite.) Has the object of your desire looked you in the eye or turned towards you in anyway? Or are her eyes fastened on a peeling piece of plaster on the far wall? (Some women do play hard to get. Also some men love the challenge of flipping a difficult chick. Trust me on this – if her focus is obstinately elsewhere – walk away!) Are her arms clasped tightly against her body? Or is her physical stance relaxed & open? A smile is a big green light. If she touches you (other than a face slap) by all means move to the next phase & ply your charm.

HOW TO RECOGNIZE GENUINE INTEREST

Before I go any further, I know you have healthy egos & that your egos can mask what is really happening in the situation. Therefore, really look & listen. Don’t read things how you’d like them to be, (“You’re so fabulous! I want you so bad!”) but as they really are.

If a woman is disproportionately interested, is touching herself or seems very exhibitionistic in behavior; she’s either a PRO or a BIG TEASE. (No woman goes from 0 – 60 mph in a matter of seconds, unless you’re George Clooney.) I’ve seen gals be very friendly in clubs, at parties or other social situations, with almost every man in the place. And then she’s left alone.

If she talks about a boyfriend, an ex or a lover right off the bat – move on – you’ll just become her friend or her therapist for the night.

As a writer I am intrigued by social interaction. I enjoy conversation like sport. Therefore if you make me laugh or can put a coherent paragraph together, I will most likely dialogue with you. (There are other women out there like me, particularly in metropolitan areas.) With someone like me you’ll have to work harder to read the signals because it takes a lot of verbal jousting to get beyond the initial meet. Intelligent women are worth it & you, at the least, may find it an interesting afternoon or evening diversion. (Do not approach me in the a.m. – I am an iceberg.) Women like me are not easy scores. If this is what you’re looking for, move on to easier, more superficial prey.

There is a good deal of opportunistic girls out there, purely looking to romance your wallet. Many men know & understand this & it doesn’t bother them. If you’re not that type, AVOID these women are all interested in the car your drive, social status & career path. Usually these women will rule you out, ascertaining your finances through your apparel & accessories. (Shoe & Hair Cut quality are dead giveaways.)

In taking the preceding into consideration – if the woman you have just warmed up with the opening line seems mentally healthy & interested -- TAKE THE NEXT STEP. Engage her in conversation. Regardless of how long you have to chat (transient places like train stations are much different than your seat-mate on a trans-Atlantic flight) make the dialogue count. That all important, first Conversation, (so it won’t be your last) will be the next topic.

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